Later, after a change in her private life, Nancy rented a kiosk from the owner of a pub. With wit and her charm she won a lot of friends and customers.
After the
landlord closed her kiosk in 1997 she came to Cologne in Germany to
help one of
her cousins, who needed a housemate. That work didn´t really satisfy
her, and after
she won some new friends in Cologne, she got a new job and another
flat in
the middle of Cologne.
It
was a
small flat on the 3rd floor, normally for students of the local universities, but it was here, where our common life started.
Our love Before
Nancy and me knew each other we lived some few months as neighbours in
the same house. When I began my studies in Cologne, I shifted
from my parents house in a small village to Cologne, that is one of the
metropols in Germany. At the time I met Nancy for the first time, I had already finished
my studies for some couples of months. On
9thmarch
1998 I rushed down the stairway from my flat, because I
wanted to go to
town. Before I passed Nancys floor, I could see somebody, standing
behind the
door-window to the entrance-hall, and instead of ignoring as usal and
going on my own way, I waved with my hands. But that
“Somebody” behind the door was amazed, that
I waved to her and she opened the door I had to pass
it. For
one
second we couldn´t say anything, but then we introduced each
other and from the
following Thursday, the 12th march, we fell in
love and staid
together, til Nancy passed away.
In
the
following December 1998 we travelled together to Kenya and we got
married (officially) in Nairobi. In the
following years, whenever Nancy could manage
to save some money, she helped her family several times with
medication-money or school-money or by sending down things like dresses and once even
spare parts for a car. From
october 2000, at least, we shifted to a bigger flat in the surburbs of
Cologne,
and the following months have been very busy to find all the furnitures
we
wanted. In
2001/2002 we managed again to visit her family in Kenya, while two
sisters of
Nancy, Mary Wambui and Jane Ruguru, staid in Cologne for visiting a
language school. During the following years, Nancy always had open ears for the
problems of her siblings in Kenya, and very often, she gave her
complete salary.
Our
Baby
and our brother Stanley In
2004,
after Nancy visited Kenya for at least the last time, she got pregnant and we
hoped our dream of a family would
become true . Every visit at the gynacologist was full
with tension, because we wanted to know, how far our baby has grown in her stomac. But in
january 2005, Nancys brother Stanley Njoroge, better known as
´Kamurigo´, suffered a stroke in the head and he staid in several hospitals. Nancy,
however now high pregnant, decided direct to organize help for her
family, because the costs for the treatment in the hospitals threatened Nancys old parents
with poverty. In Cologne some of her friends helped her with connections to other Kenyans by collecting donations and selling CDs . At least, together, they saved the familiy of Nancy. At least on 25th
April 2005 Nancy gave birth to our little daughter Miriam Karin Njoki
Huthmacher. The name of our baby unites both grandmothers names. Miriam was becoming our
both sunshine and Nancy always said, that God blesssed us with a beautiful
and sweet baby.
But Njoroge
in Kenya still needed medical treatment, and that time Nancy
insisted, that Njoroge had to be treated in
Germany. I have to confess that at the beginning it was against my
resistance -because our flat is just big enough for us both as parents
and our own child. But the strong will of Nancy won and in september 2005, Njoroge came to Germany to be treatened for his desease. The
bills for his treatment now
have been laid on our shoulders and Nancy prayed for a new job, because
since the birth of our dauhter, she had at first no chance to work
and to take care for her brother.When Nancy was workomg, Njoroge or
–baada ya kazi Mimi- I had to take care for Miriam, . But at the end, it
meant, that
Nancy worked during the last two years of her life, every night (til 3 or 4 o´clock in the morning) over
the full
week-end at brasserie Brughel in the middle of Cologne and very often
many
other days over the week. In her free time, she organized with some friends a benefit
concert for
her brother , especially with the help of Onita Boone, She only a very little time to take care for her daughter, because her sick brother Stanley also required care.
The
End After
two
years of hard work, and being pregnant in fourth month with our second
daughter Maria, Nancy suddenly startet coughing and getting heat waves
followed
by cold waves. The
first small signs
she ignored, but two days with feaver and coldness attacks persuaded
her to
visit our house doctor. Immediately the lady doctor expected an infection
for the lounges, but there was no evidence (Friday 17th
august 2007). The
proof in form as the result of a blood test three days later made it necessary to take Nancy
to the
University Hospital of Cologne (Monday 20th
august 2007) where the
doctors constated a pneumonia, In the
night to Thursday, her situation got more worse, Nancy
couldn´t breath enough
by herself anymore and the doctors transfered her to the Intensive Care Unit
(ICU). On
Friday
the 24th august then, it was the last day for me
and Nancy to talk
together. Nancy always felt thirsty and she remebered how my late oncle died years ago and she asked me direct, wether she has
to die
now, too. I denied, because I couln´t imagine, that a
pneumonia can be lethal in Germany nowadays. On the same day, the doctors tranfered her
into a
controlled coma, because Nancy lost a lot of strength for breathing, and
the
controlled coma should have help her body to recover. Til
this
day, Nancy always asked for the situation of her baby, and every day,
the
doctors checked the babys life functions, even after Nancy was
send
into the controlled coma. But
on the
fifth day in controlled coma, 29th august 2007,
Nancy lost our baby. Maybe
the -babcy itself collapsed or the efforts for Nancys body were too strong. Our baby
Maria was
born dead. For the
next
two days, Nancy seemed to recover, but the following
week-end
brought a crisis and from 1st til 10th
sepember all
medical equipment and all prayers couldn´t help Nancy anymore. Maybe it was
a mercy for Nancy, that she didn´t know about the death of her second daughter,
but the
death of Nancy left our innocent daughter Miriam without a loved
mother. With
great
sorrow, Nancy was laid to rest on 17th september
our little daughter Maria Elisabeth Wanjiku Huthmacher at the cemetry in
Cologne-Immendorf.
At
the end
they are united.